Every choice comes with a cost, and precious things are never cheap (sometimes, they cost one’s life). 99.9% of people will choose the path of least resistance rather than “the right way.”

There’s a saying: “Don’t advise others to be virtuous unless you’ve experienced their hardships.” I believe another principle applies: “You don’t know someone’s true character until they’ve been pressure-tested.” Everyone has their own core identity—a part of themselves they are least willing to give up. The more central this identity is, the more it reflects a person’s values, because at its core, it is essentially the same thing. If that deep identity is solid enough, people may even sacrifice their lives rather than alter or abandon it. This is the essence of “sacrificing oneself for a greater cause,” whether for righteousness, justice, or loyalty. Although the levels of such causes may vary, it highlights the “irrational” behavior people exhibit under immense pressure.

Abacus Federal Savings Bank: Small Enough to Jail

The case of Abacus Federal Savings Bank, which chose to fight the accusations against it and ultimately proved its innocence, is a striking example. The easier path might have been to plead guilty, accepting a lighter punishment. Why not just compromise and be done with it? Think about your family—can reputation put food on the table?

When the pressure is overwhelming, it is also a moment to clarify what truly matters to you. Living with clarity in ordinary times allows you to face life’s end with the same clarity. Through trials and tests, steel is forged.

“We can afford to lose money — even a lot of money. But we can’t afford to lose reputation — even a shred of reputation.” — Warren Buffett