Social niceties serve a purpose in certain situations. When used by someone in power toward subordinates, they are a tool of control and management. However, when the weak use them to appease the strong, they often end up being exploited. Among equals, relying on niceties signals a lack of trust.

While social niceties have their place, those who think they are clever in their use are often the ones being taken advantage of. Niceties are a means of self-defense, not a tool for building genuine friendships, mutual support, or overcoming challenges.

Speaking the truth, on the other hand, is not about proving one’s ability to be truthful. It requires both courage and a willingness to accept the consequences. Living clearly and with purpose in everyday life is what enables one to face critical moments with clarity and conviction. This ability is built over time—it is not a miracle. If someone is accustomed to evasion or half-truths in daily life, they are bound to falter under pressure.

Who would willingly sacrifice a successful career and a happy family simply to pursue truth? Everyone knows that 99.999% of people wouldn’t. That’s why it’s a question one must ask oneself.

The difference in skill lies in whether one can remain composed in a critical moment. Immense pressure can cause someone to lose control, just as unchecked desires can. These pivotal moments are often fleeting—too brief to allow for deliberate thought.

But without having experienced moments of losing control, how can one learn to maintain composure? This ability lies in one’s capacity for awareness and discernment. And where does that come from? It has always been there—only forgotten or obscured by delusions.